Woman follows through on her threat to spend the night at a hotel after her fiancé locks her out of their apartment for the 4th time, leaving him shocked she wasn't bluffing

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  • Woman lying in bed under white blankets, wearing dark pajamas and looking at her phone.
  • My (F26) fiancé (M28) and I have been dating for a couple years and recently got engaged. We've had a very wonderful relationship so far with little to no conflict, we communicate very well, and I'm so excited to marry him. Just as a disclaimer.
  • We recently moved into a new apartment a few months ago, which has been fine, but recently there's been an issue with the locks. We both work full-time jobs, but he gets home about 45 mins to an hour before me.
  • Lately, he will turn the top lock instead of the bottom lock when he gets home, consequently locking me out of the apartment (the top lock can only be locked from inside, and there's no way to unlock it from the outside).
  • The first couples of times this happened, I let it slide because it genuinely seemed like an accident, and he was very very apologetic. I know him very well and there's not a malicious bone
  • Woman in dark pajamas yawning in bed under white covers with warm light in a hotel room.
  • in his body, so there's no possibility it's something he's doing on purpose. He's always very excited to see me when I get home, very clingy overall, and
  • rushes to open the door once he hears me knock, so, again, I don't think it's something being done on purpose.
  • However, it started becoming more frequent despite me expressing how frustrating it has become. My commute home is long and traffic the entire time,
  • Woman in dark pajamas sleeping on a bed, resting her head on a pillow in warm indoor light.
  • so I'm almost always in a bad mood by the time I park at our apartment, so coming home just to be locked out when all I wanna do is just BE HOME makes me a little pissy. He apologizes
  • profusely every time and says he'll pay more attention, and for a couple of days he'll start using the correct lock, but then he'll go right back to using the other one. Eventually I kind of snapped at
  • him and told him the next time I get home and I'm locked out, I'm just going to find somewhere else to stay for the night. He really didn't like the fact that I was threatening him with this,
  • but again, assured me he'd be better about it and pay more attention to which lock he uses (he never locks both btw, just one of them). This was a couple
  • of days ago, we were both a little icy after that interaction, but quickly got over it and everything was back to normal.
  • Sure enough, yesterday evening, I got to the apartment and the door was locked. I didn't even knock, I just immediately pivoted and went right back to my car.
  • After a quick stop at Walmart for the essentials, I booked a hotel for the night and stayed there. It didn't take long for him to figure out what was happening, and he
  • called me within like ten minutes of me getting back in my car after I had got home. He was apologizing and begging me to come back, but I reminded him that I warned him what would
  • happen if he locked me out again and that I wasn't coming back until tomorrow. He fought me hard on this, but I stayed firm
  • and quickly ended the phone call. That evening he was texting me a lot, again full of apologies, and I didn't answer them.
  • Now it's the next day, I'm typing this up at work and a little anxious about going back home after last night. He hasn't texted or called since.
  • AITAH for not bluffing?
  • Edit to answer some questions/debunk some theories: - I can confidently say he is not cheating or worried about me
  • or catching him watching something. Plus, I already know he watches sometimes, so randomly deciding to hide it now wouldn't make any sense.
  • - To everyone telling me to change the locks, this is an apartment that we rent. We can't just up and change the locks.
  • His old place that we lived at before moving here had a similar situation with the locks. They were in the same location, and the top one could only be locked from the inside. There was one instance where he locked me out then, but never again after that (besides now obviously).
  • - Think what you want, but I don't think this is something worth throwing away an entire relationship for. He's amazing in every other regard, and I'd feel
  • beyond silly for breaking up with him for this. People in relationships are allowed to be frustrated with each other and not immediately call it quits. Din.
  • - We've decided to cover it with a sticky note, so using that lock would have to be more intentional. He was fully on board with this idea and there was no push back.
  • - His explanation for it was that he doesn't really look when he locks the door. He walks in, blindly reaches for the door, and grabs for the first lock he feels.
  • They both sound the name, so he has no indication of which lock is locked. This explanation made me side eye him a bit, admittedly, but

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